“Desires create actions.”
It’s so obvious, but true: the only reason you (intentionally) do something is because you have a desire. Desire is the only motive for action. Our conscious actions are purely based on what we (actually) want.
Let’s say you’re trying to gain muscle. That’s a desire. It requires lifting heavy weights; pain. This “collides” with another desire: comfort.
You’ll go to the gym because your “desire for muscle” exceeds your “desire for comfort”. It’s as simple as that. You always choose what you want (most).
Discipline does exist. But at the core of every (conscious) action, there’s desire. Desire is willpower. Desire is the greatest force.
Why Do You Procrastinate?
There are too many desires.
With thousands of contradicting desires,3Not to mention, we’re not even aware of many of them. Most people, having never examined themselves, have no idea what they want.willpower gets scattered.
Unclear desire; scattered willpower; confusion; paralysis. The sign of “not knowing what you want” is (endless) procrastination.
It doesn’t make sense to me when people beat themselves up for “not being disciplined” / “not having willpower”. They simply didn’t want it enough / wanted something else more / were confused. It’s unnecessary punishment.4Talking morality: you didn’t hurt anyone, you don’t deserve any punishment.
If you want, you do. If you don’t want, you don’t. Why suffer over not doing? You just didn’t want it!
(Suffering over “not wanting something enough” is some next-level desire. It’s beyond unnecessary.)
(Excuse is self-deception; it’s telling yourself you want A more than B, when you don’t.)
It’s not about “motivation”.5I mean, look for yourself. Do “motivational videos” really work? No. What % of short-term motivations lead to actual achievements? Pretty darn close to 0.It’s about awareness. It’s about self-examination. It’s delegating all the false-desires.
Having a strong & clear desire seems to be far more effective than trying to be disciplined.6Personally, disciplining myself has never worked long-term.
Desires use emotions to bring actions.
If something is relevant to a desire, the ‘unconscious’ puts a good/bad label on it. Something that fulfills the desire is “good”, you feel good.
If: Desire without action, Then: Anxiety7created by the unconscious. This is why action relieves anxiety.
Without desire, no event would be any significant, ever; you’d be completely emotionless (in terms of delight/suffering).
Also, desires inject emotions into preferences; like/not-like into love/hate.8“Love” as in “strong/emotional liking”When we love/hate something, we don’t hate that “thing” per se; it’s usually9almost always, actuallyrelated to some desire.
Why do you hate someone, who has no impact on your life, whatsoever?
What You Truly Want
There are true-desires and false-desires:
True-desires are the things that you truly want. You don’t actually want the false-desires; chasing false-desires is a waste of time.
You can surely know if you truly wanted something when you get it.11If you truly wanted it, you’re satisfied. If you didn’t actually want it, you still feel empty.
The only other way12how to know before spending all the time, that I know of, is to ask “why”; constantly questioning the desires. When I realize that a desire came from somewhere else, it’s easy to disattach from it. If not, I can’t.
Humans are capable. We’re very good at getting what we want. It’s my suspicion that, if you truly want something enough, you’ll almost certainly get it. Perhaps even near-impossible things.
You have to concentrate on that one major desire.13Perhaps there can be 2. 2 at the absolute maximum. That means giving up all other desires.14Again, contradicting desires cause paralysis. You can’t focus on multiple things at once. Conflict is two desires colliding with each other.
Every15pretty muchmega-successful person had one overwhelming desire.
Questions & comments are welcome!